Happy Birthday MsErinsita!
Yesterday, marketing master John Lin invited me to Baby Jane on Brickell for a 90’s hip hop night, so after I stuffed my face at Cabanas Restaurant on Calle Ocho, DJ Gabby Mejia and I power walked to the bar to say hello to some of Miami’s most fierce usual suspects. A nice surprise awaited. A girl at the bar said hello. She looked familiar. She told me that my blog was her favorite, she read all of my posts and that I should file for a Conde Nast publication because my writing was too good to just stay local. She made my night….and I woke up this morning to a notification from LinkedIn that it is le birthday of MsErinsita. Wow. Speechless. The humorous factor here is I did not even know. I am eternally grateful….just like I am for the people who ‘made’ me launch this site, like my girls Maria Tettamanti and Ginger Harris. Although I consider myself to be an anti-blogger, and more of a journalist with a unique style of writing that is rather engaging and polarizing, thank you for your support, your comments and love.
These two years….have been the biggest roller coaster of my life. I lost my grandfather, who was a tremendous role model. I traveled the world. I volunteered on boards, met amazing new friends, watched my best friends get married in both Paris and Mexico. I moved to Mexico City…and with in a year and a half, I moved home from Mexico City. I, Erin Newberg, was the victim of abuse by a severe alcoholic. Vanesa Menkes, PR guru, told me that I should share my story of how my life wentin full circle, and she encouraged me to share how I ended up where I am, but I hesitated.
Well, here it is: I never thought I would say this on my blog, but the truth is, my truth, and maybe my journey can help someone out there who is in a domestic partnership of verbal violence. It is just as dangerous as physical abuse and you should know that I literally ran for my life people. It may sound humorous because of my tone, but I had to escape. I had limited time, yet I managed to get out in 20 hours, with my 9 suitcases. Thank god. Many encouraged me not to go back in the middle of the night, but thank god I did,a and because I had the courage to do what I did, how I did, with the help of my college friends, I got out. Subsequently, I ended up in the best emotional position of my life, but it took work and hours of therapy when I did not have the capacity to eat, let alone listen. I also sought my healer, who did not even know ‘him,’ who told me to run for my life.
Instagram and Facebook allow you to pretend and shine; to show the world your life, in a light in which you desire. I am great at socially covering up my real pain and suffering with this grand smile and personality that shines, but truth be told, I was beaten down and broken, and felt worthless, could barely walk. Can you imagine someone doing this to me? Well, they did.
After a lot of support by my inner circle, and my family (especially my mother), I had a decision to make, and that was to look forward. In life, we have two options: rear view mirror or windshield. I chose the windshield. Out of this pain and suffering, came realizations. If you don’t fall on your face, how can you pick yourself up? Well, I fell hard, but decided to pick myself up and move forward.
Today, 6 months later, I confess, I am happier than I have ever been. I am back. I met the most lovely partner I could have ever asked for. My gratitude is major. I am working on some amazing freelance projects, I am working in a partnership with Kristin Ducote at Merchant Services LTD, and I am going to be an auntie to a little boy, as my brother Jonathan is not only a newly appointed partner and Lydecker Diaz, but he and his wife Jessica are expecting their first baby in February. Every day I simply say thank you because I have some of the best friends in the world, an amazing wardrobe, and a hell of a lot of love in my life.
Thank you for your support, people.
6 thoughts on “Happy Birthday MsErinsita!”
glad you weathered the storm, and came out shinier than ever! Sharing your story is a gift to others and is so healing.
Thanks beautiful. This blog’s 2nd birthday gave me a platform and a reason to share the struggle I lived. Lets just say, I did NOT share my experiences to protect myself. He is a danger, so I gave a vivid breakdown, but if i can give someone the courage to do what I did, then mission is accomplished. People look at me as a jet set socialite. Yeah, it is fun. BUT, I am also a victim of abuse. Staying silent is not chic, hence this post. Adore you Er….I hope to see you soon beauty. xo E
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Erin!!!! I had no idea! You’ve been so close but yet so far. I’ve always admired your zest for life and the happiness you exude – it’s contagious and I’m sorry you had to go through this but as they say “What doesn’t kill you, makes you stronger” and no one can argue that you’re a force to be reckoned with!!!! Mazel Tov you beautiful being! Stay true to yourself and lead the way for others! Love always!
Love you! And thanks for keeping it real.
Cherie your writing so beautiful to describe such a
terrible time in your young life. You deserve L O V E and to hell THE one who inflicted you so much pain.
Life is smiling at you now. Sunshine in your heart.
We love you
Kisses from Paris